Have you ever had the feeling that life is just too difficult? Perhaps you are struggling to achieve your goals, or you are constantly confronted with obstacles that appear to make things more difficult than they should be. You are not alone, as humans we frequently face challenges that appear unnecessarily difficult. Whether we’re trying to lose weight, improve our relationships, or achieve a professional goal, we often make things more difficult for ourselves without even realising it. Let’s look at some of the ways we do this and offer suggestions for how we can make it easier on ourselves.
Overthinking is one of the most common ways we make things more difficult for ourselves. We can become so engrossed in analysing every detail, considering all possible outcomes, and second-guessing ourselves that we become stuck in indecision and inaction. We waste time and energy overthinking instead of trusting our instincts and taking action, which can lead to stress, anxiety, and missed opportunities. To overcome overthinking, we must first recognise it and attempt to break the cycle. Setting a time limit for decision-making and sticking to it is one helpful technique. Allow yourself a certain amount of time to consider your options before making a decision and moving forward.
Perfectionism: Another way we make things more difficult for ourselves is to strive for perfection. While having high standards and a desire to do our best is admirable, perfectionism can be a double-edged sword. We set ourselves up for disappointment and self-criticism when we expect ourselves to be perfect. We may also avoid taking risks or procrastinate because we are afraid of not measuring up. To overcome perfectionism, try focusing on progress rather than perfection. Remember that mistakes and setbacks are a normal part of the learning process, and that taking imperfect action is preferable to doing nothing at all. Allow yourself to make mistakes while also celebrating your successes.
Procrastination is one of the most common ways we make things more difficult for ourselves. We procrastinate until the last minute, causing unnecessary stress and anxiety. Procrastination has an impact not only on our productivity, but also on our mental and emotional well-being. The longer we put off completing a task, the more it weighs on our minds and becomes more difficult to complete.
Negative self-talk: How we talk to ourselves has a big impact on our ability to achieve our goals. Negative self-talk can lead to a self-fulfilling prophecy in which we believe we will fail and then fail. We frequently engage in negative self-talk because we are afraid of failure or lack self-confidence. By replacing negative self-talk with positive affirmations, we can boost our confidence and self-esteem, making it easier to reach our goals.
Focus: In today’s world, it can be difficult to stay focused on a task for an extended period of time. Multitasking can make things even more difficult because it divides our attention and causes us to do nothing well. We can increase our productivity and make things easier for ourselves by eliminating distractions and focusing on one task at a time.
Failure: Fear of failure can prevent us from pursuing our dreams. It can cause us to doubt ourselves and give up before we even try. We can overcome our fear and make it easier to achieve our goals by reframing our perspective and viewing failure as an opportunity to learn and grow.
Boundaries: By allowing others to cross our personal or professional boundaries is an act of lack of boundaries. We frequently struggle to set boundaries because we are afraid of conflict or want to please others. However, failing to set boundaries can lead to feelings of overwhelm, stress, and resentment. We can overcome a lack of boundaries by communicating our needs, setting clear expectations, and learning to say no when necessary.
We often make things more difficult for ourselves through our actions, behaviours, and thought patterns. We can increase our productivity, build confidence, and achieve our goals with greater ease by recognising these patterns and making conscious changes. We can overcome obstacles and create a life of success and happiness by taking care of ourselves, focusing on progress, and reframing our perspective. This is a lifelong practise, but it is breathtaking. I wish you ease and simplicity.
